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[ well after a certain someone decided to propose out of nowhere and sandalphon has had time to fully process the information... he decides asking the network would be a good idea. ]

I'll be blunt: how do weddings work? Is there specifics I need to adhere to? Any customs? Any and all thoughts appreciated.

[ then it dawns on him, and he adds on: ]

Yes, I'm aware this post makes me out as non-human. Wedding culture is non-existent in my kind, and most sites online are asking me to hire people. I'd rather do this myself.

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[Oh. Armin feels qualified to answer this. Being another engaged man, and all.]

Wedding customs are quite varied across different cultures and time periods. Though I suppose the only specific you must adhere to is love the person you are marrying. (Well, in this time period, at least. Marriage as a means to secure lands and succession rights were common in the past.) Though common customs include an officiant that leads the wedding. This officiant might be a religious figure, or a governmental representative, or sometimes simply a good friend of the couple in question. Then there is the couple themselves, of course. Another common custom is to have witnesses at the wedding that can later vow that everything happened in good faith. Often, these are called your best man (for men) and maid of honour (for women) Let's see, other common customs include having the father of the bride giving her away at the start of the ceremony (though this might not be applicable, as few of us have our parents present in this world). Exchanging rings to signify your status as a married individual. The wedding vows, which can be written yourself, or done by using a more standard text (either religious or secular). And then, well, then you get into the whole business of the party after the wedding.

[Armin just takes a moment to stare at everything written out already, knowing he has barely scratched the surface.]

Honestly, it's a little overwhelming.

I heard the tradition of transfer or benefit of land was common in my home world, but since the customs here differ, it left me at a loss.

Regardless, those are all great starting points. It helps to know a lot of this, and I’m aware this only be surface level. You’re right— all of this is overwhelming, and I figured more knowledgeable people were on the network. Simply browsing the internet made my head spin with “wedding ideas” and “inspo” and the like.

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( thump thump thump thump thump! that is the sound of a certain dragon prince's bare footsteps as he runs down the hallway to the room that Sandalphon is in.

he slides the door open and breezes in. HEY. )

I see you on the network! ( he!!! points!!!!! at his pokégear!!! ) I'm your fiancé, now. You should talk to me about this, too!

[ sandalphon’s head craned as corrin barged into the room, expression deadpan as corrin rambled on and on about the post and how he should know too. when he finished, sandalphon gave a wry smile. ]

Guilty as charged. [ his smile turned a bit teasing as he continued. ] Someone has to have the brain to ask.

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[YELLING]

I had the pleasure of giving my blessings and helping lead a wedding once! I will be glad to help with all the knowledge that I possess.

Do you plan on making it a large event, with invitations to many of your friends and acquaintances?

Please do, just thinking about this makes my head hurt. It hurts so much.

I know Corrin will have my head if I don’t let him invite everyone he possibly can, so it’ll be a relatively big event. However I’m not completely sure where to start.

[ he knows you're reading, corrin!!! ]

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[ ...hang on a second. ]

Does that mean you're getting married?

You’re the only one to actually ask and simply not presume. Yes, Corrin and I are getting married.

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I have no idea.
I acknowledge that is not very helpful, but if anything you can rest comfortably knowing that you are not the only one out of your element. Wedding culture also does not exist where I am from, or at least not the sort of culture I care to replicate.

[She will not, in fact, dance naked and blood covered around a Vault Hunter corpse, or whatever else it was that the bandits of Pandora did.]

If you discover anything of note, will you let me know?

I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels lost, so to speak. I vaguely know of it thanks to my acquaintances back home, but nothing concrete.

But I’ll make note of that, thank you. I’ll contact you as soon as I have more information.

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I don't know anything about that, to be honest, but well, I did read a little about it online after I saw this. And I kind of think, if you want to do that kind of thing with someone-- Well, it seems like a really personal choice, so maybe you can find ways to make it personal to you?

I guess that doesn't make much sense. What I mean is, maybe you could find things that you do have where you're from, and from what you're supposed to be, that fit in with whatever else you do.

And I should say congratulations, right? Like I said, I don't know this stuff; I'm not a human either.

You may think it makes no sense, but in fact you’ve given me a starting point. It is a serious choice, and making it our own sounds like a viable path— after all, most humans usually do so, given my own research.

Thank you… even if I don’t understand the significance of saying congratulations for a post asking about marriage.

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[Well this is just the most adorable post she's ever read.]

...well, unless you're some kind of royalty, the only customs you should really worry about are the ones that bring you both joy. It is a celebration of a union, after all.

Well, he is a prince from where he’s from. That may complicate things.

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First of all, congratulations!

Second, usually in order to be legally binding you need at least a couple of witnesses and an officiant of some kind. Everything else is optional, though.

Erm... Thank you?

So the wedding itself could be as small as I’d like it? Also, this officiate— do they need a license or anything of the sort?

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[ For now, there's not enough information, so the details that Sandalphon is actually getting married... flies over Yuzu's head. For now... ]

Weddings, huh... well, you probably don't have to worry too much about it, right? Probably something that the married couple decides on together...

[ ...wait a minute— ]

Why are you asking?

I’m asking because I’m the one getting married. I wouldn’t be asking otherwise.

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[Wait, is that... Sandalphon? Aaaah it is!]

Oh that's wonderful! Congratulations, Sandalphon!

Ah… thank you? I didn’t realize people would pick it up so easily… For all everyone could've known, I had just heard of weddings and felt the need to ask.

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I am not a human either, though I do not know much help I will be. Within my own people, formal weddings are usually only held when a higher status male is taken to husband by a lower status female--it is a way to adopt the female into the male's household, so that he will not lose his status upon their marriage. Otherwise, the male is just brought into the female's household.

Ah, a matriarchal society! Those are rare from where I’m from. That is truly interesting…

Were formal weddings smaller, simply including the family? Or were they grand events?

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the post didn't reveal your being non-human
you did
by explicitly saying so.
but as for weddings
I had mine here in johto also.
there are no specific customs because they differ from culture to culture
and this land isn't mine so I ignored its customs.
you don't need to hire anyone.
that's ridiculous.
it's not difficult to plan a wedding.

[ oh does he want to throttle this guy. but whatever!!!! ]

At least you’re direct in your response. Thanks.

And if it's not so difficult, then tell me what you did to plan yours.

It's not immediate, but some time after the post is made, there's a video message in response. And while it comes from Geddoe's Pokégear (in as far as one might recognize the ID), what actually appears on the screen is... an extreme closeup of a Helioptile's face. Who then chitters something excitedly.

Okay then.

Well, if other Pokémon are present (or simply someone who can understand Poké-speech), the gist of Zipper's helpful commentary is something along the lines of:

"Boss knows a lot of stuff and I saw him looking at this so maybe he knows something? But he doesn't like pushing the buttons so I'm doing it for him! Do you want to talk to him?"

[ thankfully gabriel the milcery is here to save the day! she does the translations for sandalphon, who, thankful for his tiny partner’s ability, decided to bite the bullet. ]

If he wishes to speak, then yes. Don’t push your trainer more than he wants to be. [ said to the helioptile. ]

wow thanks for eating my coment dw

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